Sadness is a Healthy Emotion: Embrace the Sadness and Let it Pass

Sadness is a Healthy Emotion: Embrace the Sadness and Let it Pass

We all feel sad sometimes. Sadness is a healthy emotion that can make life more interesting. Much art and poetry is inspired by sadness and melancholy feelings. Sadness almost always accompanies loss - when we say goodbye to a loved one, we usually feel sad. The sadness is even deeper if a close relationship has ended or a loved one has died. However, sadness also helps us to appreciate happiness. When our mood eventually changes from sadness towards happiness, the sense of contrast adds to the enjoyment of the mood.

Here are some ways to experience normal sadness in a healthy way and to allow this emotion to enrich your life:

Allow yourself to be sad 

Denying such feelings may force them underground, where they can do more damage with time. Cry if you feel like it. Notice if you feel relief after the tears stop.

If you are feeling sad, plan a sadness day

Plan a day or evening just to be alone, listen to melancholy music, and to observe your thoughts and feelings. Planning time to be unhappy can be actually feel good. It can help you ultimately move into a more happy mood.

Think about the context of the sad feelings 

Are they related to a loss or an unhappy event? It's usually not as simple as discovering the "cause" of the sadness, but it may be possible to understand the factors involved.

Sadness can result from a change that you didn't expect, or it can signal the need for a change in your life. Change is usually stressful, but it is necessary for growth.

Know when sadness turns into depression 

Get help if this happens rather than getting stuck in it.
    If you experience more than a couple of the following symptoms of depression, please seek help:
    • Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood

    • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism

    • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness

    • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex