Change Your Life By Asking the Right Questions

by Jason Earls - Guest Writer

Various self-help gurus and proponents of neuro-linguistic programming have put forth the notion that the process of thinking is simply asking yourself one or more questions. Although this may be too simplified a model of the human mind and how it functions (some might say thinking could be a series of logical – or illogical in some people’s case – steps that proceed from one point to another, but that admittedly the steps were most likely preceded by a question that initiated them in the first place).


Going further, claims have been made that people can change their life for the better simply by asking the “correct” questions that will transform their viewpoint from a negative one to a highly positive one as the question helps focus their mind; and beneficial answers will arrive if the right questions are asked intensely enough. To see how questions are capable of concentrating the mind, try this simple thought experiment: How many yellow things are presently visible in the room you are presently occupying? Take a moment to look around. Perhaps you will see the color yellow appear in a painting on your wall, or there’s a yellow book cover on a shelf, or you may notice a yellow lamp in the corner. Now switch to the colour blue. How many blue things do you see?

Did you feel your mind focus in on each color as you searched around the room, finding exactly what you were looking for? Now imagine when a problem occurs in your life, using the same kind of mental power to harness positive energy and focus it on finding the perfect answer to your problem.

The next time a dilemma occurs in your life, instead of asking wrong, negative-based questions such as: “Why am I always so unlucky in life? Why can’t I ever get anything right? Why am I such a loser?” Instead, extract yourself from the unpleasant situation by asking positive questions, such as: “How can I use this situation to my advantage? What can I learn from this? What is the best way to go about solving this problem?” Negative questions lead your mind to finding negative answers, while positive questions focus your mind on locating positive answers. Questions are powerful enough to determine all of your thought patterns and help you focus on particular areas, so by making sure they are the correct questions, in no time flat your life can become completely fulfilling in every way.


Questions allow your brain to find certain references. If your questions are positive and uplifting, you will find positive references to improve your happiness, rather than negative references that will only be detrimental to your overall mental and physical health. Don’t live on autopilot, change your focus with good questions; ones that will challenge you and put you in the correct frame of mind for finding unlimited success and ultimate advancement. Remember, great power can be harnessed by asking direct, simple, and profound questions.

“Why should I even try this when I know it will never work? Why can’t I ever win at anything? Why is God punishing me like this?” Avoid these types of questions at all costs. Drive them out of your mind as soon as they appear, and in their place implant positive, self-empowering questions. Ask yourself what you are most happy about in your life right now; what you are most proud of; what you’re excited about; grateful for; enjoying the most; what you are fully committed to. Also find people whom you genuinely respect and discover their own questions and use them in your life as well.

“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.” – Albert Einstein

Einstein was right. Never stop asking questions. But make sure they are the best ones possible. Certain simple, powerful questions have completely changed various people’s lives for the better. And they can change your life as well. Remember, the way you evaluate your experiences is what shapes everything you do and how you feel. Simply by improving the questions you ask, you can destroy all barriers and limitations to your happiness, which will allow you to accomplish all of your goals and dreams.

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